Three Years!


Photos by the incredible Patricia Lyons

Three years ago today, on September 6th, 2008, in the midst of hurricane Hanna, I married my perfect match.  It’s hard to believe it’s already been three years, but there’s also a part of me that feels like I’ve been married forever, because, I just can’t imagine my life without him.  I am incredibly blessed.

So with ALL my wealth of marriage experience, I thought it would be fun this week to share some “lessons learned” for the future marrieds, the newlyweds, and the seasoned veterans.  For the record, by NO means am I any expert…I mean, hopefully I’m only like 5% of the way into this thing, but in my limited three years, I’ve managed to put together three little tips that I’ll share over the next three days.  Ready for number 1?

1.  Husbands were made to compliment us, but not complete usthere is only One who can fully complete us.         

I’ve written about this a little before, but as women, I think it’s easy for us to try to replace God with our current love interest be it a husband, boyfriend, or a major crush.  Once you get married, it becomes increasingly convenient…all of a sudden, you have this good looking guy living with you all the timeone who vowed to love, protect, honor, and provide for you.  When Mr. Wonderful is always around, it’s easy to lose sight of the main Man in our life, and replace Him with a tangible love, affection, and affirmation that husbands often provide.

Sooner or later though, no matter how “perfect” Mr. Wonderful may be, he is going to fall short, disappoint, or let us down.  Husbands were designed to compliment us, but they weren’t made to complete usthere’s only One who can fully complete.  His love for us is perfect, everlasting, and completely fulfilling.  His pursuit of us is constant and continual.  He will never leave us and no matter what we do, He will never stop loving us.  He, above all the Mr. Wonderfuls in the world, is worthy of our heart, our affection.    

So, my sweet friends, when you find your Mr. Wonderful, or if you’ve already married him, no matter how completely perfect he is, don’t neglect or downgrade your First LoveHe is so worthy of our affection and He deeply longs for our hearts.    

“Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.  Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”
Deuteronomy 4:4-6

“I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope…O Israel, put your hope in the LORD, for with the LORD is unfailing love and with him is full redemption.”   
Psalm 130:5, 7

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