Happy Monday! I hope you had a fabulous weekend! Saturday I attended the wedding of an incredibly special friend, Mrs. Laurie Miller. As a bride Laurie was beautiful, peaceful, joyful, totally in love with her wonderful groom, and just “so Laurie.” I am beyond thrilled for Mr & Mrs Miller and just can’t wait to see what God has in store for them!
On my drive back to Charlottesville, I was thinking about Laurie and the influential role she has had on my life. When I look back on my faith, there are many things that have helped support and carry me through the years—Christian camps, praying parents, Young Life, Beth Moore videos & Bible studies, and incredibly supportive friends; but I have to say that without question, one of the most valuable foundations for me has been the support and influence of older women in my life.
I’m beyond grateful for older women who took the time to spend with this loud, boy crazy, emotionally-out-of-control teenager. Women who listened to me, valued me, prayed for me, laughed with me, cried with me, and supported me. Without question, Laurie is one of those gifts.
Since I was about 15, Laurie has seen me, and her other “chickadees,” through high school, college, first jobs, and into marriage. Through cheese fries, movie nights, road trips, college visits, and eventually drinks with the girls, Laurie has been a faithful supporter and friend.
She loves and understands people in a way that is refreshingly real and incredibly challenging. Over the course of our friendship, Laurie has helped me to see and know God in a deeper and real way, and just by listening to her talk, I always leave wanting more of God.
Laurie holds a very special place in my heart, because she has seen me through several seasons, but there are other women who have also taken the time to nurture me during various seasons—girls who drove me to the mall when I couldn’t drive, invited me to their home in college for a cup of tea, tears, and prayer, hosted a newlywed couple at their home on Easter Sunday for brunch, or continue to meet me early in the morning for coffee and career advice.
There is something so special about older women teaching, encouraging, and supporting younger women. And no matter what season you’re in, or how old you are, there is always someone slightly younger who needs to talk to someone on the other side and hear that you will eventually heal from your first broken heart; there is life after college, even though the adjustment period stinks; that adjusting to living with a boy you’ve pledged your life to gets easier with time; and that your child WILL eventually learn to sleep through the night. Women who have been in the trenches but eventually through prayer and God’s grace, made it through.
I think we all need to have someone older who can encourage us and remind us of God’s truth during our current season, but likewise, we need to repay the favor and invest in someone younger. Is there someone in your life God is calling you to invest in? I have to tell you, if you ask most women if they’d like an older mentor, as a supporter and encourager, there are few I know who would say, “no thanks.”
Let’s be in prayer about it this week, and if God brings someone into your life, be open to the idea of investing in them and sharing your life with them, I can’t begin to tell you what a valuable gift you will be giving to them.
so a friend sharpens a friend.