Slowing Down & Asking for Help


So last week, I mentioned on Long to Love that Little B and I were in a car accident recently.  What I assumed to be standard soreness in my neck and back has persisted and last Friday, I went back to the doctor, who told me I had suffered whip lash in my both my neck and upper back.

I can move around throughout the day, but I’m pretty much in chronic pain in my neck and back.  And 2.5 weeks later, everyday things like holding Little B, carrying groceries, or loading the dishwasher still hurts a lot.  It’s emotional and overwhelming to be in pain and feel so limited.

The doctor outlined a one-month plan for my recovery and explained that it’s time to start taking care of myself and making getting better a priority.

Getting sick or injured is never something we plan.  Is there ever a good time to put life on hold?  Throughout the day, we’re called to be so many different people–wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee–it’s hard to even find time to take care of ourselves.  We get in a mindset where we give, give, give, that sometimes, even when we need it most, we don’t even know how to slow down and get the rest we need.

To complicate things, my husband B has just started a new job and is traveling pretty much the entire fall.  The combination of B traveling and my injury has forced me to call in reinforcements and ask for help.

After putting in off for several days, I finally agreed to my parents’ kind invitation for us to move in with them while B is gone.  (Just when my dad thinks he is FINALLY an empty nester, one of his five little darlings finds a way to fill it, once again!)  They have been so helpful with holding Little B, bathing him, rocking him, and keeping us both well-fed and happy!

I’m also learning a lot about being willing to ask for help.  You know when people call, email, or text, and say, “Let me know if there’s anything I can do!”  I’m slowly beginning to actually take them up on their offer and let them know–asking people for prayer, help watching Little B, or even just someone to come keep me company and entertain me!

And I’m learning that sometimes there are seasons in our spiritual lives, when we’re weak and don’t have much to give–right now, I feel like I don’t have much to offer anyone, especially the God of the universe, but what I’m beginning to learn and see first-hand what God says in 2 Corinthians 12:9, My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”    

My grace is all you need…

My power works best in weakness…

Don’t you love that!?  Such great truths to inhale and rest in!

Sometimes when we’re at our weakest points–be it physically, spiritually, or emotionally–that’s when God pulls through and shows off in the best of ways.  Just when we feel like we’re about to be emptied out completely and have nothing else to give, God gives us just what we need to be strengthened, sustained, and filled.  

It’s okay to slow down and take care of yourself.  

It’s okay to ask and rely on other people in your life to give you help when you need it.  

And it’s definitely okay to go to God when you’re at your lowest, weakest point and ask Him to fill you up.

Just like I posted last Thursday:

“My invitation never changes: Come to Me, all you who are weary, and I will give you rest.”