Push Through It.

A recent blog and book I’ve discovered is Adulting by Kelly Williams Brown.  In it, she has all kinds of tips and advice for twenty-somethings about work, relationships, cleaning…it’s great.  As a blogger who writes mostly about faith, I feel the need to warn you, her language can be colorful, but she’s got some great advice.  Like this gem:

If you have to do an interview via Skype….

Image via Adultingblog.com

Tape googly eyes next to your webcam to help maintain eye contact.

Words to live by!

Recently, she wrote a post entitled, “Step 314: When you make a big life change, the first few months will probably suck.  Push through it.”

At first, it’s easy to idealize change.  You may find yourself stuck in the mundane and think, “Oh, once I switch jobs, move houses, change churches, relocate…” then everything is going to be GREAT!

But let’s be honest, sometimes change is hard; and it’s ALWAYS an adjustment.

When I first moved to DC, after college, I was elated–new apartment,  new roommate, new job, new places to shop, new restaurants, and new dating prospects–what more could a 22-year-old girl ask for?!

The first month, I felt like I was living in a movie as I dressed up for work, made my coffee, and bounded out the door to grab the metro and head into work.  Who was this young, professional girl living in the city who did things like, meet for drinks after work?!

Then, the reality set in–working is hard, especially when you start at the bottom.  Supporting yourself financially is not at sexy as it sounds.  Living away from most of your best friends can be miserable.  And all those cute, new boys weren’t exactly what I had romanticized in my mind.

Yet, somehow, with some major support from my incredible roommate, Sallie, we both managed to push through it and discover that there is life post-college, even if it requires a full-time job and paying bills.

Yet, even the most exciting transitions can take some getting used to, and as Kelly Williams Brown says:

These feelings do not mean you’ve made the wrong decision. You can’t really evaluate something new at first. So when you’re feeling frustrated, when you’re feeling lost, when you’re asking yourself why, why, why you made this choice, push through it. Examine your feelings of loss from a distance — of course you miss your old city/job/significant other. The only way you wouldn’t miss it is if there was nothing redeeming about that time in your life.

So just wait. Know that your sadness will not kill you. Give it three months.

 Read Kelly’s full post here.


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