Last night, I saw a movie called Race To The Nowhere with my friend Price. The film features students, parents, educators, and doctors looking into the problem that many students starting at a very young age, feel pushed to the brink and pressured to do everything—homework, sports, instruments, art, community service, etc. so they can get into a good college and ultimately secure a good job…but where does this get them?
It’s amazing how young the mentality that we have to do everything can set in. As women it’s easy to buy into the notion that we have to do everything—be the perfect friend, wife, mother; have booming careers; whip up a home cooked meal each night using only locally grown, organic food; take part in a million different organizations; read our Bible and pray each morning; and still have time to take it a quick pilates class and run 5-6 miles a day.
In the book I’m reading, Bittersweet, Shauna recounts this a bit from her own life and her infinite To-Do list:
“At one point, I kept adding to the list, more and more items, more and more sweeping in their scope, until I added this line: DO EVERYTHING BETTER. It was, at the time, a pretty appropriate way to capture how I felt about my life and myself fairly often. It also explains why I tended to get so tired I’d cry without knowing why, why my life sometimes felt like I was running on a hamster wheel, and when I searched the faces of calmer, more grounded women for a secret they all knew that I didn’t. This is how I got to that fragmented, brittle, lonely place.”
Over the weekend, one of the incredible gems Lysa imparted on us was that “we were created to be human beings, not human doings.”
Let that sit in a minute—human beings, not human doings. For me, that was incredibly freeing. Before setting out to change the world one homemade loaf of bread at a time, we first need to figure out how to be and then do. We need to pause and sit in the reality that Jesus is at the core of our being and our be-ing.
Rather than running around frantically trying to do more than is humanly possible, we need to allow ourselves the freedom to rest in simply being and allow Jesus’ truth to set into our hearts. Rather than defining success as one who can do everything better, we need to cling to the promises of who He has created and called us to be and then set out together to do the work He has prepared for us.