God the Pursuer

Last week I shared about a few things I learned while studying “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” with Scott in our small group. I have a greater understanding of the unfailing and protective love of my heavenly Father because of my family.

Going through the book we discussed the different ways men and woman communicate, interact, solve problems, and feel loved. For example, a man doesn’t like to talk about a particular problem unless there is no way for him to solve it on his own. But women like to talk through everything and like to offer unsolicited advice. Some of the generalizations about the sexes applied less to Scott and me, but a few points were spot on.

“Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.”

“When a man gives priority to a woman’s needs and proudly commits himself to supporting and fulfilling her, her need for devotion is fulfilled. A woman thrives when she feels adored and special.”

Breaking down the way a woman loves and needs to be loved made me very appreciative of Scott and of our story together. I couldn’t figure out how to explain our story succinctly (we met in 8th grade and got married 12 years later) so, here is Scott’s version:

Scott: Do you want to date? Meg: No

Scott: Do you want to date? Meg: No

Scott: Do you want to date? Meg: No

Scott: Do you want to date? Meg: Ok

Scott: Will you marry me? Meg: Yes

When people ask about our history, Scott jokes about how he finally wore me down. I joke about how he needed to grow up. And a couple weeks ago I asked Scott if he minded the joking, just to make sure he wasn’t hurt by it. He simply responded that he ended up with me. That made it all worth it.

And the truth is, I love the fact that Scott pursued me. I love that part of our story. I feel adored just being reminded of how long he prayed and waited for me.

But the exciting part is that each one of us is pursued in the greatest love story of all time. God loved you so much that he sent his son to die for you! The Lord desires to live with you in covenant – that is a promise of commitment. Eternal commitment.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Romans 5:8

I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you in with loving-kindness.”

Jeremiah 31:3

I have a clearer understanding of how God loves me wholly because of my family. But (thankfully) their love doesn’t even come close! Just look at Hosea to get a clear reminder of how little we deserve a love so grand. God does not break his promises. And one of those promises is to make us whole in his love!

How blessed is God! And what a blessing he is! He’s the Father of our Master, Jesus Christ, and takes us to the high places of blessing in him. Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his beloved Son.

Ephesians 1:36 (Message)

Finally, I love this post by Elizabeth about Returning to God. Here is an excerpt:

What is God longing for? “For I desire mercy and not sacrifice, and the knowledge of God more than burnt offerings.”

I’m no Bible guru, but I was SO excited when I stumbled upon the original Hebrew word for “mercy” in this instance. The word is hesed, which refers to a loyal, covenant love; a mutual relationship between God and man.

God wants us!


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