Yesterday I began reflecting on how God has used my family to love and shape me. We were reminded of how we should live in the confidence of our Father’s love.
Discussing marriage and the magnitude of the man’s responsibility as head of the family made me appreciate my future-husband vetting team: Chase and Matthew, the Terrorizing Tandem.
In high school, Chase would tell boys that called for me that I was out of the country. Matthew recruited his friends to camp outside of one guy’s house who spread a rumor about me. Chase physically assaulted his friends who even hinted at flirting with me. In college, Matthew welcomed one boy who was visiting by jumping on top of, straddling and yelling at him, “Welcome to the Pittmans!” as a way to wake him from a nap. And I won’t even get into the nicknames they created.
I may have been horrified by their various tactics at the time, but I am now grateful to have had help in making the most important decision of my life, other than the decision to accept Christ as my Savior. I think I was saved from considerable heartache knowing that anyone I might consider dating would have to pass “the bro test”. My brothers were protective of me because they knew what boys were like.
Similar to our siblings, God wants the best for us. He is a jealous lover. He doesn’t want us to invest our hearts in things or relationships that don’t glorify him. Unfortunately, God doesn’t communicate as conspicuously as our siblings or good friends may. We need to be reminded of our worth and infinite value as his children. Women often seek affirmation and acceptance from relationships, but we cannot substitute the unfailing love and adoration of our Maker and Protector. He created us! He created us in such a way that we can only be absolutely fulfilled through Him. God knows everything about each of us and wants us to enjoy his good and perfect will!
Let God’s promises soak in. His love for you is perfect.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
Psalm 139:13 & 14
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Lord, you are my Keeper and you want to love me fully. I pray for discernment to see if my investments – activities, commitments, relationships, etc. – pass “the God test.” If I truly understand how much you care for me, then I will want to honor you with every part of my life. Give me that vision! Thank you for loving me outrageously.
I lift up my eyes to the hills— where does my help come from?
My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.
He will not let your foot slip— he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.
The LORD watches over you…
The LORD will keep you from all harm— he will watch over your life;
the LORD will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.